Attempting to navigate the dating world can sometimes be a real challenge. There are so many different types of guys out there and trying to figure out exactly what you’re looking for and what kind of person would make the perfect partner for you can sometimes feel impossible. And, while there are definitely a large amount of amazing, caring, and considerate guys out there, this isn’t always the case with everyone. You need to be on your guard and know exactly what to look out for.
Keeping your mind open to a wide range of possibilities that you never would have expected is necessary but there are also definitely certain things that you’ll want to try to avoid at all costs if you’re hoping to keep your heart in one piece. Here are the top 10 things you’ll want to make sure that you avoid when you start playing for keeps in the dating game.
- The Guy Who Thinks That He’s Got You Figured Out
Everyone wants a partner who she feels completely understands her. However, there’s a big difference between taking the time to get to know someone on a deeper level and dating someone who thinks that he’s got you all figured out right from the very start of the relationship.
These are the guys who will label you as a certain type of woman just after one night out. In fact, he probably started trying to figure out what mold you fit into from the first second he walked through the door. This usually means that he’ll also do everything in his power to “fix” you into the perfect picture of what his woman should be. Make sure that you look out for warning signs such as hearing a lot of “I told you so” during the first few dates. If he starts thinking that he understands the way you work instead of taking the time to actually learn who you are, then it’s time to move right along.
- Men Who Like Being Damaged
Almost everyone has had some sort of devastating breakup or a relationship that made it hard for him or her to trust. This isn’t a sign that you should run for the hills but the moment you realize that the person you’re trying to win the heart of is comfortable having it stay broken, it’s time to start looking elsewhere. There are guys who just won’t move along from that one difficult relationship and aren’t interested in really opening up their hearts to anyone else. They enjoy their loneliness and misery too much. And while there might be someone out there who can make them change their ways, you shouldn’t have to struggle for months and months, if not longer, to receive very little in return. You deserve someone who will want to go above and beyond for you for all the right reasons, not because they feel obligated. Turning the broken guy into the best boyfriend in the world makes a great movie but not such a great reality.
- The Guy Who’s More Into Sports
Having a guy who likes to watch a game once and a while can be fun. However, falling head over heels for a guy who’s more attracted to ESPN than you can get old really quick. There’s certainly nothing wrong with sitting down on the couch together and enjoying a game while you snack on wings and beer. But, if you find yourself having to get into massive fights just to spend an evening out and away from the TV, it’s best that you find someone who’s more interested in you and what you have to offer. All guys have their habits and there’s nothing wrong with that. Just make sure that he’s willing to make as much time for the two of you as he is for his fantasy football league. Finding a guy who can balance between hanging with the guys and enjoying a night out with you should be the priority.
- The Guy Who’s Prettier Than You
Everyone wants to be attracted to the person he or she is with. However, there’s a difference between finding a guy with model-worthy good looks and dating someone who makes you feel like an unattractive troll by comparison. You want to feel beautiful and desirable every time you head out the front door together but if he’s spending longer than you in order to get ready, you might want to rethink things. Now, that’s not to say that dating a more effeminate guy is a bad thing. In fact, a lot of these men can be really stand-up guys who make great boyfriends. Just make sure that you still feel as though you’re the girly one in the relationship or you could quickly end up feeling resentful and bitter towards the person who you’re supposed to love.
- Men Who Can’t Be Pleased
Unfortunately, some guys just get a kick out of making their partners feel terrible about themselves and this is a big warning sign that you need to get out of the relationship as quickly as possible. These are the kind of men where nothing is ever good enough. Spent all night fixing the perfect dinner from scratch? It was too salty. Or maybe you spent that extra money you had saved up to buy a new dress for date night only to have him tell you that you look like a whore and to go change. While you may not automatically think of this as abusive, it can be. And these kind of things have a tendency to escalate. Rather than putting up with his negative nonsense, get out fast and find someone who loves and appreciates you for who you are in every way.
- The Guy who Hates on Everything
Going along with number 6 is the guy who just really hates everything and everyone. This is the guy who always has a complaint no matter where you are and what you’re doing. You can rest assured that if you go out to dinner, even if it’s the best restaurant in town, something will have to be sent back. If you stay at a hotel, something will inevitably be wrong with the room. Most of the time, a clear warning sign of this guy that you’ll be able to quickly take note of on the first date will be him being rude to the staff. If he starts tearing everyone and everything apart when you first get there, it will only be a matter of time before he turns his horrible attention to you.
- The Man Who Thinks That He’s a Boy
Ok, now there’s certainly nothing wrong with a guy who likes to spend some time in front of a computer or playing video games every once in a while. But there’s a difference between someone who enjoys these little distractions and man that just refuses to grow up. These are the guys who will expect that everything is done for them, who want you to act as if you are their moms rather than their girlfriends, and who will even have a hard time keeping a job just from their lack of responsibility and consideration. While you might think you’re having fun with him at first, his immaturity is going to quickly grind you down. Stop listening to his excuses while you can and find yourself a real man who will care about taking care of you as much as you take care of him.
- The Paranoid Guy
Wanting to make sure that you’re safe and taken care of can be an incredibly attractive quality in a man. However, when you find it hard to even have a nice night out with your friends without having to constantly answer text messages asking where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing, it can be a real problem. These paranoid and obsessive guys will always think that you’re cheating on them no matter how loyal you are. Sometimes it can be so bad that they’ll even accuse you of talking to other guys while you’re sitting at home with them. These are the kinds of guys who you want to avoid at all costs. The amount of negative energy that they’ll bring into your life will be suffocating and you’ll never feel comfortable or safe in the relationship no matter what you do to convince them.
- Men Who Are Cruel
Have you ever been with someone and came to realize that he can say the harshest, most unbelievable things in such a way that you barely even realized that he was being mean? This kind of guy can be the most dangerous in a relationship because they can slowly and efficiently get into your head and make you feel as if you’re really the worthless, terrible thing that they’re trying to make you feel that you are. These men are master manipulators and will say things that can be so incredibly cruel out of nowhere that it really takes you by surprise and hit in the worst ways. Avoid these men like the plague because no one deserves to be treated this way.
- The Player
Often enough, the guy who seems to have all the answers and know all the right things to say knows these things for one specific reason. He has a lot of experience. In fact, players can often seem to be the best guys when you first get to know them and this is because they know exactly what they need to do in order to get you to let them in. However, you’ll be amazed just how fast their attention starts to wander in the direction of their next conquest. Stay away from guys who start talking to you while you thought that they were with someone else and definitely take a guy’s reputation to heart. He got it for a reason.